Free Love Language Quiz: What Is Your Love Language?

This free love language quiz has 30 quick questions. For each one, pick the option that would make you feel more loved. At the end you get your top love language, your full ranking across all five, and simple ideas for using it, including how to show it in a long distance relationship. It takes about 5 minutes and you do not need to sign up.

The quiz is inspired by Gary Chapman's five love languages from his 1992 book The 5 Love Languages. It is an unofficial quiz made by Cupie and is not connected to Chapman or his publisher. If you want the original, take the official Love Language quiz at 5lovelanguages.com, which is also free.

How does this love language quiz work?

• 30 forced choice questions. Each question shows two ways a partner could show love. Pick the one that means more to you, even if you like both.
• Every pair gets a fair match. Each love language is tested against each of the other four, three times. That is 10 pairs, 3 times each, for 30 questions.
• Your score. Each answer gives one point to a love language. The most any language can score is 12. Your highest score is your main love language, and the next one is your secondary.
• Answer for you, not for your partner. Think about what makes you feel loved, not what you usually do for others. Those are often different.

Tip: take it with your partner. Do it on your own phones, then share results on a call. It makes a good date night, and you can follow up with our couples quiz to see how well you really know each other.

What are the 5 love languages?

Chapman's idea is simple: people tend to give and receive love in different ways. If you show love in a way your partner does not "hear", they may not feel it, even if you are trying hard. Here is what each one looks like.

Words of Affirmation

You feel loved when your partner puts it into words. Compliments, "I'm proud of you", a sweet text out of nowhere, a thank you for something small. Kind words stay with you for days, and harsh words hurt more than most people realize.

Try this: say one specific thing you appreciate about them every day. "You looked great today" is nice. "I love how you made my sister feel welcome" is better.

Quality Time

You feel loved when your partner gives you their full attention. Not just being in the same room, but really being present: phone down, eye contact, listening. A distracted conversation can feel worse than none.

Try this: plan time with no other screens. A walk, a game, a meal where you both actually talk. Our list of deep questions to ask your partner helps.

Receiving Gifts

You feel loved by thoughtful things your partner picks out or makes for you. It is not about money. It is about the proof that they thought of you when you were not around. A pressed flower or a snack they remembered you like can mean more than an expensive present.

Try this: keep a note on your phone of things your partner mentions liking. Surprise them with one when they least expect it.

Acts of Service

You feel loved when your partner does things that make your life easier. Taking a chore off your plate, sorting out a problem, making breakfast. To you, actions speak louder than words, and promises to help that never happen can really sting.

Try this: ask "what's one thing I can take off your plate this week?" and then do it without being reminded.

Physical Touch

You feel loved through closeness. Hugs, holding hands, cuddling, a hand on your back while you talk. Touch makes you feel safe and connected. This is often the hardest love language when you live far apart.

Try this: small touches through the day matter as much as big moments. Hold hands on a walk. Hug a few seconds longer.

Inside the Cupie app

Questions from Cupie's Get Romantic deck

Word for word from the Get Romantic deck in Cupie (Deeper in love). The deck has 101 cards.

• Deeper in loveWhat do you do because you love me, not because you enjoy it?
• Deeper in loveWhich part of my personality do you admire most? Why?
• Deeper in loveWhat kind of love story do you want us to write together?
• Deeper in loveIf you could see into the future, what would you want to know about us?
• Deeper in loveIf you could thank me for one thing in life, what would it be?
• Deeper in loveWhat's something you want for me that I might not want for myself yet?

How should you use your love language result?

Your result is a starting point for a good talk, not a label. Here is how to get the most out of it:

1. Look at your full ranking. Most people care about more than one love language. If two scores are close, both matter to you.
2. Share it, with examples. "My top one is Quality Time" is a start. "I feel really loved when we cook together with no phones" is something your partner can act on.
3. Ask about theirs. Your partner may feel love in a very different way. Neither is wrong.
4. Do not use it as a weapon. "You never speak my love language" is a fight starter. "Can we add more of this?" is a request.
5. Give in all five. Your partner's top love language deserves extra attention, but everyone likes kind words, time, thoughtful gifts, help and a good hug.
6. Retake it later. What you need can change with stress, a new job, a baby or a move.

Are love languages backed by science?

Not really, and it is worth being honest about it. The five love languages are hugely popular. Chapman's site says his book has sold over 20 million copies, and that more than 150 million people have taken the official quiz.

Researchers are less sure. In a 2024 review in Current Directions in Psychological Science, psychologists Emily Impett, Haeyoung Gideon Park and Amy Muise looked at the existing studies. They found little support for three ideas: that everyone has one main love language, that there are exactly five, and that couples who "match" are happier. Instead, they found that people tend to feel happier when they receive any of these kinds of love, and they suggested thinking of love as a "balanced diet".

So use the quiz the way it works best: as a fun, fast way to talk about what makes each of you feel cared for. That conversation is the useful part.

How do love languages work in a long distance relationship?

Distance makes some love languages easy and others hard. Here is how to show each one when you are not in the same place.

Quality Time over video

Quality Time is the love language most long distance couples can do something about every day. The key is shared attention, not just a call running in the background. Doing something together on video helps: you both focus on the same thing, you laugh, and the time feels like a real date.

That is what Cupie is built for. It is a free video call app for couples where you call your partner and play games together live, synced on both phones: Minigolf, Pool, Chess, Cup Pong, Four in a Row and more, plus question decks like Get Deeper and Get Romantic and 239 quizzes. As of October 2026 it has 4.8 stars on both the App Store and Google Play. Both of you need the app, and there is no text chat yet, since it is built for video calls.

"my bf and i spend 2hours every night on cupie, we love the games but we now also just use it in general instead of facetime" (jessyjsssy, App Store)

When Physical Touch is your top love language

This one is tough, and it is fine to say so. Things that help: something physical of theirs to keep close, a fixed date for your next visit, long calls before bed so you fall asleep "together", and lots of the other four love languages in between. For more ideas, see our long distance relationship tips and long distance date ideas.

What to do after the quiz

1. Send your partner this page and ask them to take the quiz too.
2. Compare results on a call. Each of you names one specific thing the other could do this week.
3. Try one small act in their love language every day for a week.
4. Keep the talk going with our 36 questions to fall in love.