160 Would You Rather Questions for Couples (Funny, Deep and Spicy)

Here are 160 would you rather questions for couples, sorted into 8 groups: funny, cute and romantic, deep, future and life, travel and dates, spicy, long distance, and hard choices. Pick a group, take turns asking, and always follow up with "why?" The "why" is where you actually learn something about your partner.

Every question is written for two people in a relationship. You won't find "would you rather be a cat or a dog" filler here. Use the random picker at the top of the page if you can't decide where to start.

How do you play would you rather as a couple?

The rules are simple. One of you reads a question with two options. The other picks one, and they have to pick. "Neither" and "both" are not allowed. Then they explain why. Then you swap.

A few small tweaks make it much better for couples:

• Guess first. Before your partner answers, guess what they'll pick. Keep score. It turns the game into a test of how well you know each other.
• Ask one follow-up. "Why?" is good. "When did you first feel that way?" is even better.
• Answer at the same time. Count to three and say your answer together. No changing your mind after hearing theirs.
• Allow one pass. Each person gets one free skip per game, no explaining needed. It keeps the spicy and deep rounds comfortable.
• Mix the moods. Start with funny, go to deep, end on romantic or spicy. Starting deep can feel like a job interview.

The game is old. Friends have played it for decades, and two Duke graduates, Justin Heimberg and David Gomberg, turned it into a popular book series starting in 1997. It works so well for couples for one reason: every answer is a tiny bit of information about your partner's values, and you get it without asking a heavy question directly.

Funny would you rather questions for couples

Start here. These are built to make you both laugh, and some of them will start real arguments about who's right.

1. Would you rather have to narrate everything your partner does out loud for a day, or have them narrate everything you do?
2. Would you rather share one toothbrush with your partner for a year, or one pair of shoes?
3. Would you rather your partner's ringtone be your voice singing badly, or their mom's voice saying "pick up"?
4. Would you rather only communicate with your partner through song lyrics for a week, or through movie quotes?
5. Would you rather have your first kiss replayed on a stadium screen, or your most awkward date?
6. Would you rather your partner snore like a leaf blower, or sleep talk about their ex?
7. Would you rather have a pet that only likes your partner, or a pet that bites your partner every day?
8. Would you rather your partner find your full search history, or read your notes app?
9. Would you rather always have to say "I love you" in a cartoon voice, or never be able to say it at all, only spell it?
10. Would you rather wear matching outfits every day for a month, or let your partner dress you for a month?
11. Would you rather have your partner's parents move in for a year, or move in with your partner's parents?
12. Would you rather lose every board game to your partner forever, or win every one and have them sulk?
13. Would you rather your partner be able to read your mind for one hour a day, or you read theirs for one hour a day?
14. Would you rather do a couples TikTok dance in public, or sing a duet at karaoke in front of your friends?
15. Would you rather have your partner choose every meal you eat for a month, or every show you watch?
16. Would you rather be the couple that's always 20 minutes late, or the couple that's always 20 minutes early?
17. Would you rather your partner give you a nickname you hate in public, or text you only in all caps?
18. Would you rather be stuck in an elevator together for six hours, or be stuck at an airport together for two days?
19. Would you rather your pet could talk and tell your partner all your secrets, or your phone could?
20. Would you rather have a wedding officiated by a clown, or a first dance chosen by a random stranger?

Inside the Cupie app

8 would you rather picks from Cupie quizzes

Word for word from the Would You Rather quizzes in Cupie. There are 24 of them, and 239 quizzes in total.

• Love in BalanceHave a long-distance relationship for a year, or spend a month not talking to each other at all?
• Love LanguagesGo for a picnic together, or receive a passionate kiss?
• The Challenges of LoveHave a partner very active on social media, or have a partner with no social media accounts?
• FinancesInvest in a high-risk, high-reward asset, or invest in a safe, more stable asset?
• Impossible ChoicesNever laugh again, or never use your smartphone?
• Perks and CursesAlways be tired, or always be bored?
• Dare to EatEat a whole bowl of spicy chili peppers, or a whole bowl of cat food?
• SuperpowersBe able to fly like a bird, or be able to swim like a dolphin?

Cute and romantic would you rather questions

Good for a cozy night in, or a slow FaceTime before bed. These tell you how your partner likes to feel loved.

1. Would you rather get a handwritten love letter, or a playlist made just for you?
2. Would you rather relive our first date, or skip ahead and see us in ten years?
3. Would you rather have breakfast in bed every Sunday, or a surprise date every month?
4. Would you rather slow dance in the kitchen, or watch the sunrise on a rooftop?
5. Would you rather I tell you what I love about you, or show you with a surprise?
6. Would you rather get a forehead kiss or a long hug when you're stressed?
7. Would you rather we have a song that's "ours", or a restaurant that's "ours"?
8. Would you rather fall asleep on a video call with me, or wake up to a voice note from me?
9. Would you rather we take a photo together every day for a year, or write one line about our day every night?
10. Would you rather I remember every small thing you say, or plan every big moment perfectly?
11. Would you rather have a picnic in the park, or a candlelit dinner at home that we cook together?
12. Would you rather hear "I'm proud of you" or "I missed you" more often?
13. Would you rather hold hands everywhere we go, or have one long cuddle every night?
14. Would you rather get flowers for no reason, or a note hidden somewhere you'll find later?
15. Would you rather we meet again for the first time, or keep every memory we have now?
16. Would you rather I write you a poem, even if it's terrible, or learn your favorite recipe?
17. Would you rather we have a big group of couple friends, or keep most of our time just for us?
18. Would you rather celebrate our anniversary with a trip, or recreate our first date?
19. Would you rather have one perfect day with me that you remember forever, or a hundred normal days you won't?
20. Would you rather I call you by your name or by a pet name?

Deep would you rather questions for couples

Save these for when you both have time. They are still easy to answer, but the "why" can take twenty minutes. For more of this kind of thing, try our deep questions to ask your partner.

1. Would you rather always know what I'm feeling, or always know what I'm thinking?
2. Would you rather we fight loudly and make up fast, or fight quietly and take a day to make up?
3. Would you rather I be brutally honest with you, or gentle even if it hides a little?
4. Would you rather be loved a lot and understood a little, or understood a lot and loved a little?
5. Would you rather talk through a problem right away, or take space first and talk later?
6. Would you rather know how our relationship ends, or never find out until it happens?
7. Would you rather we have the same opinions on everything, or argue about ideas forever?
8. Would you rather I support every choice you make, or push back when I think you're wrong?
9. Would you rather be forgiven for everything, or never need to be forgiven?
10. Would you rather have a partner who makes you laugh, or one who makes you feel safe?
11. Would you rather I see your worst day, or your most embarrassing moment?
12. Would you rather we share every password, or keep some private things private?
13. Would you rather change one thing about your past, or know one thing about your future?
14. Would you rather feel like you have to earn love, or feel like it was always free?
15. Would you rather be the one who loves more, or the one who is loved more?
16. Would you rather have a partner who's your best friend, or a partner who's very different from your friends?
17. Would you rather know every secret I've ever kept, or have me know all of yours?
18. Would you rather we grow in the same direction slowly, or in different directions fast?
19. Would you rather never feel jealous, or never make me feel jealous?
20. Would you rather be remembered as a great partner, or as great at what you do?

Would you rather questions about your future together

These are a safe way to talk about big stuff (money, kids, where to live) without it feeling like a serious "talk". If an answer surprises you, that's a good thing to know early.

1. Would you rather live in a tiny apartment in a big city, or a big house in a small town?
2. Would you rather have a big wedding, or elope and spend the money on a trip?
3. Would you rather live close to your family, or close to mine?
4. Would you rather have kids in the next few years, or wait until we've done everything else first?
5. Would you rather share one bank account, or keep all our money separate?
6. Would you rather move abroad together for five years, or never leave the country we're in?
7. Would you rather we both work from home, or both work in an office and meet up after?
8. Would you rather retire early and live simply, or work longer and retire rich?
9. Would you rather build our dream house, or travel the world with no home base for a year?
10. Would you rather have a house full of people every weekend, or a quiet home that's just ours?
11. Would you rather we split chores 50/50, or each own the chores we actually like?
12. Would you rather adopt an old dog that needs a home, or raise a puppy from day one?
13. Would you rather start a business together, or never mix work and love?
14. Would you rather we celebrate holidays with your family, mine, or start our own tradition?
15. Would you rather save for a house, or spend on experiences now?
16. Would you rather have a garden we grow our own food in, or a city balcony with a view?
17. Would you rather we grow old in one home, or move every few years?
18. Would you rather have one child and lots of time, or a big family and lots of noise?
19. Would you rather plan our whole year in January, or decide everything as we go?
20. Would you rather be the couple everyone comes to for advice, or the couple nobody knows much about?

Would you rather questions about travel and dates

Use these to plan your next actual date. Whatever you both pick, go do it. Need more ideas? See our long distance date ideas and date night games.

1. Would you rather go on a road trip with no plan, or a fully planned trip where every hour is booked?
2. Would you rather spend a week at a beach with no phones, or a week in a big city with no budget limit?
3. Would you rather go camping in the mountains, or stay in a fancy hotel and never leave the room?
4. Would you rather take a cooking class together, or a dance class together?
5. Would you rather go to a concert of my favorite artist, or yours?
6. Would you rather have a movie marathon at home, or go to a drive-in?
7. Would you rather see the Northern Lights, or swim with sea turtles?
8. Would you rather do a date where I plan everything as a surprise, or plan it together?
9. Would you rather try a food you can't pronounce, or eat at the same favorite spot again?
10. Would you rather visit every country in Europe, or see every corner of one country?
11. Would you rather have a fancy dinner out once a month, or cheap takeout dates every week?
12. Would you rather go to an escape room, or a theme park?
13. Would you rather fly first class to somewhere close, or economy to somewhere amazing?
14. Would you rather do a sunrise hike, or a midnight swim?
15. Would you rather spend a rainy Sunday doing a puzzle, or a sunny Sunday at a farmers market?
16. Would you rather rent a cabin with a hot tub, or a houseboat on a lake?
17. Would you rather learn a new language together for a trip, or wing it with hand signals?
18. Would you rather go to a wedding where you know nobody, or a party where you know everybody?
19. Would you rather take a train across a country, or a cruise across an ocean?
20. Would you rather stay up all night talking, or wake up early to make the most of the day?

Spicy would you rather questions for couples

Flirty, a bit bold, never graphic. Use the one-pass rule here. For more, try truth or dare for couples, which goes further.

1. Would you rather get a slow kiss on the neck, or a surprise kiss from behind?
2. Would you rather I wear something you picked, or surprise you with something you've never seen?
3. Would you rather we have a whole day in bed, or a quick moment somewhere we shouldn't?
4. Would you rather get a flirty text in the middle of your workday, or a flirty voice note at night?
5. Would you rather I whisper something in your ear at a party, or tell you exactly what I want when we get home?
6. Would you rather have candles and music, or lights on and no plan?
7. Would you rather give a massage, or get one?
8. Would you rather take a shower together, or a bath together?
9. Would you rather I make the first move every time, or you do?
10. Would you rather we try role-play, or try a new place in the house?
11. Would you rather be kissed until you're breathless, or teased until you can't wait?
12. Would you rather I describe our best night together, or describe one I want to have?
13. Would you rather get a slow dance with no music, or a private dance to your favorite song?
14. Would you rather sleep in my shirt, or sleep in nothing?
15. Would you rather we flirt like strangers at a bar, or act like it's our first date?
16. Would you rather get a love bite, or leave one?
17. Would you rather hear what I like about your body, or what I like about how you kiss?
18. Would you rather be blindfolded, or be the one tying the blindfold?
19. Would you rather have a weekend away with no clothes needed, or one wild night out dressed up?
20. Would you rather I tell you my biggest turn-on, or guess yours?

Would you rather questions for long distance couples

If you live apart, these are made for your nightly call. They're also a nice way to talk about how you'll close the distance one day. Our long distance relationship tips cover the rest.

1. Would you rather call every night for 15 minutes, or once a week for three hours?
2. Would you rather visit me for a long weekend every month, or for three weeks twice a year?
3. Would you rather get a surprise visit, or a planned visit you can count down to?
4. Would you rather have a care package every month, or a handwritten letter every week?
5. Would you rather we watch the same show at the same time, or play a game together on a call?
6. Would you rather be in the same time zone and far away, or close by with opposite schedules?
7. Would you rather move to my city, or have me move to yours?
8. Would you rather sleep with a shirt that smells like me, or a pillow with my photo on it?
9. Would you rather know the exact date we close the distance, or have it be a surprise?
10. Would you rather fall asleep on call with me, or say goodnight and hang up?
11. Would you rather send good morning texts, or good night voice notes?
12. Would you rather meet halfway in a new city, or always visit each other's home?
13. Would you rather have a shared countdown widget, or a widget that shows where I am right now?
14. Would you rather cook the same recipe on a call, or order each other dinner as a surprise?
15. Would you rather spend the first day of a visit going out, or staying in and catching up?
16. Would you rather have a teleport button you can use once a month, or a phone call that always has perfect signal?
17. Would you rather do the long distance part now, or later in life?
18. Would you rather have a fight on the phone, or wait to talk about it in person?
19. Would you rather write me an email you'll send in a year, or open one I wrote a year ago?
20. Would you rather plan our next trip tonight, or let it be a surprise for both of us?

Hard would you rather questions (no easy answer)

Both options are painful, or both are great. These are the ones that get you shouting "that's not fair". Good for a game where you keep score.

1. Would you rather lose all your photos of us, or all your texts from me?
2. Would you rather never be able to go on a vacation together again, or never be able to go on a date night again?
3. Would you rather give up your phone for a year, or give up our weekends for a year?
4. Would you rather always know when I'm lying, or have me never know when you're lying?
5. Would you rather have a perfect relationship that ends in five years, or an okay one that lasts forever?
6. Would you rather forget our first year together, or forget the last month?
7. Would you rather have to say every thought about me out loud, or never say any of them?
8. Would you rather never argue again, or never stop laughing together, but not both?
9. Would you rather date me with no money, or date someone else with endless money?
10. Would you rather we only see each other on weekends forever, or live together but never go out?
11. Would you rather give up music, or give up movies, for our whole relationship?
12. Would you rather have your partner be your coworker, or your neighbor and nothing else?
13. Would you rather relive the best day of your life every year, or have a new great day every year?
14. Would you rather get one honest answer from me about anything, or ask me one question I can't refuse?
15. Would you rather be stuck on a desert island with me and no food, or with plenty of food and no me?
16. Would you rather lose your sense of taste, or never be able to kiss again?
17. Would you rather have me always on time and grumpy, or always late and happy?
18. Would you rather share every meal for the rest of your life, or share none of them?
19. Would you rather fall in love with me all over again every year, or stay in love the same way forever?
20. Would you rather have this conversation again in ten years, or never have it again?

How do you make would you rather questions more fun?

After a round or two, add a twist. These keep the game going for a whole evening.

• Points for knowing each other. Guess your partner's answer before they say it. One point per right guess. Loser plans the next date.
• Write your own. Each of you writes five questions about your real life ("Would you rather go to my cousin's wedding or your boss's party?"). These are often the best ones.
• Speed round. Ten questions, three seconds each, no explaining. Then go back and ask "why" about the most surprising answer.
• Switch games. When you run out of steam, move to this or that questions for something faster, or never have I ever for confessions.
• Play it on a call. Read questions out loud on FaceTime, or use an app that shows the same card to both of you. See our list of games to play on FaceTime.

Why do would you rather questions work for couples?

They're low pressure. "What do you want out of life?" is a big ask. "Would you rather live in a tiny city apartment or a big house in a small town?" gets you most of the same answer, and it's fun.

Each question is also a small chance to show you're paying attention. The Gottman Institute calls these moments "bids for connection". In its newlywed research, couples who were still married six years later had turned toward each other's bids 86% of the time. Couples who later divorced did it 33% of the time. Asking a silly question and really listening to the answer is a small way to practice that.

Can you play would you rather on a video call?

Yes, and it's one of the easiest games for long distance couples because you need nothing but your voices. You can read from this page while you're on FaceTime. The problem is that one person ends up reading and the other just answers.

On Cupie, a free video-call app for couples, Would You Rather is one of 239 quizzes you play live on the call. You both see the same question at the same time, in sync on both phones, so nobody has to be the one reading. It's on iPhone and Android, and as of October 2026 it has a 4.8 star rating on the App Store and Google Play. Both of you need the app, and it's built for video calls only, so there's no text chat.

"I absolutely love this app. The quizzes are great to get to learn your partner more and there's so much built it. I think it's perfect for long distance couples looking to build that connection." - MarieJordan00, App Store

Cupie also has Truth or Dare, Who's More Likely To, Chess, Pool, Minigolf and other games you play together face to face on the call. Want a full test of how well you know each other? Try our couples quiz.