Do They Like Me? How to Tell if Someone Likes You

To tell if someone likes you, watch for effort that repeats: they start conversations, ask follow-up questions, remember small things and turn talking into real plans. The check above weighs the signals you actually see, for he, she or they, over text or in person. Anything you are not sure about does not count either way. It ends the honest way: with one easy text that lets you find out.

How does the signals check work?

1. Pick what you want to know. Do they like me, are they losing interest, or am I the one giving mixed signals.
2. Pick he, she or they, and how you mostly talk. Text, in person or both. The lines change to fit, so you never rate something you cannot see.
3. Tap an answer on each line. Often, at times, rarely or unsure. The bar at the bottom shows your read as you go, and you can change any answer.
4. See your result. Strong, mixed or weak signals, a map of what pulls it up or down, how sure the read is, and three texts you can send.

Nothing leaves your phone. Your answers and past results are saved in this browser only, so you can check again next week and see the trend.

Which signs matter most?

Single moments mislead. A fast reply can be boredom; a slow one can be a long shift at work. What matters is a pattern of effort over a few weeks. Relationship researchers at the Gottman Institute call small reach-outs, like a question, a joke or a shared link, bids for connection. Someone who keeps making bids and keeps answering yours is showing interest.

• Plans with a real day. "We should hang out sometime" is easy to say. "Are you free Thursday?" takes intent. This counts most in the check.
• Offering another time. Everyone cancels sometimes. People who are interested come back with a new date.
• Follow-up questions. Asking about the thing you mentioned yesterday means they listened.
• Starting chats. If you always text first, that is worth noticing, though some people are just shy.

Some signs pull the other way: only texting late at night or when bored, being warm one week and distant the next, or talking about other people they are into.

Is he losing interest, or am I overthinking?

Switch the check to Losing interest. Instead of how often something happens, you rate whether it went up, stayed the same or went down compared to a few weeks ago. One or two dips are usually life: exams, work, a bad week. Several drops at once, such as fewer plans, fewer calls and fewer chats started by them, are worth one calm question. Our Should I Text Them? helper gives you the words, and tells you when to wait.

Am I giving mixed signals?

The My signals lens turns the same list around. It is easy to send mixed signals without meaning to: flirting and then going quiet, saying maybe to every plan, or watching their stories while their message sits unanswered. If your read comes back mixed, one plain text fixes most of it. If the real issue is that you text short replies, take the dry texter quiz.

What should I do with my result?

• Strong signals: make a plan with a day and a time. A short call is a good first step if you have only texted.
• Mixed signals: make one low-pressure invite and see what they do with it. Their answer is your answer.
• Weak signals: ask once, plainly and kindly, then let it go if the answer is vague. You deserve someone who is sure.

Need something to talk about once you do get on a call? Try our 21 questions game, this or that questions or these games to play on FaceTime.

What this check cannot do

• It cannot read anyone's mind. It reads what you have noticed, and what you notice is shaped by what you hope.
• Some people are warm in person and dry over text, or shy at first. Use the Both setting if you see them in person too.
• If something feels off, like pressure, lies or fast promises from someone you have never met, trust that feeling more than any quiz.